Whether you’re planning an elective surgery or aiming for a vaginal delivery, bringing your child into the world is a magical journey that demands incredible physical and emotional strength. It’s also important to remember that even the most carefully laid plans can change.
During my pregnancy, my initial plan was to have a vaginal delivery, but as my pregnancy progressed, my baby remained in a breech position. Although a vaginal birth was still possible, the likelihood of needing a C-section increased. Eventually, my baby turned head first, but when the big day arrived, I wasn’t experiencing any contractions despite my water breaking. Hours later, I was informed that we might need to proceed with an emergency C-section. My baby’s heart rate was slowing down, and the labor wasn’t progressing, so I understood that if it came down to that, it would be the right decision. After 16 hours of labor and the medical staff’s hard work, I finally had a natural delivery. Looking back, I wish I had prepared more thoroughly for that possibility.
Most women I spoke to reflected on their C-sections with gratitude, appreciating the safe delivery of their baby. However, I also recognize that it’s common for some women to experience feelings of guilt or disappointment for not having the vaginal birth they initially hoped for. Regardless of the delivery method, I believe the most important is to prioritize the health and safety of both you and your baby.
If you are going through a hard time with your planned or emergency c-section, don’t hesitate to reach out for support from your loved ones. You can also join a support group for moms who have also experienced C-sections; this can help you acknowledge that your feelings are valid, which may provide a sense of comfort. Finally, don’t hesitate to seek guidance from your healthcare provider to navigate your emotions and/or recovery.